Comments on: An open letter to my working mother’s guilt http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/ Snapshots of life lived between countries, callings, and kids. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 05:05:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Nina http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-10983 Nina Thu, 20 Jan 2011 18:56:22 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-10983 Thank you for writing this. I struggle every morning when I have to leave my one-year-old daughter. Many tears have been shed on my commute away from her and to my job. For me, as for many, working is not a choice or a luxury. I'm happy to have a job that I like; that makes it easier. The hours aren't always flexible, though, and some days I see my daughter for only three hours. That breaks my heart. So, anyway, I really appreciated this post. Thank you for writing this. I struggle every morning when I have to leave my one-year-old daughter. Many tears have been shed on my commute away from her and to my job. For me, as for many, working is not a choice or a luxury. I’m happy to have a job that I like; that makes it easier. The hours aren’t always flexible, though, and some days I see my daughter for only three hours. That breaks my heart.

So, anyway, I really appreciated this post.

]]> By: melissa http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-10964 melissa Thu, 20 Jan 2011 11:33:29 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-10964 i just stumbled upon this post this morning. it is medicine to my weary soul. i went back to work full-time six months ago in order for my husband to pursue his degree in relgion/philosophy. it's been a hard hard hard transition. i still cry often when i have to leave my two little tots behind. thank you for these words. they will ring in my mind today....every day. until i am home again. grace and peace i just stumbled upon this post this morning. it is medicine to my weary soul. i went back to work full-time six months ago in order for my husband to pursue his degree in relgion/philosophy. it’s been a hard hard hard transition. i still cry often when i have to leave my two little tots behind.
thank you for these words. they will ring in my mind today….every day. until i am home again.

grace and peace

]]> By: MainlineMom http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-4436 MainlineMom Mon, 28 Jun 2010 01:37:09 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-4436 Thank you, so beautifully written. Found this via your comment post on MPT's blog. I'm really really saddened that we are discussing this again. People say they don't mean to heap guilt but by taking a hard and fast stand on what "God's word says", as THEY interpret it, is saying that if you don't meet that standard, you are sinning and ought to feel guilt. It's like putting working outside the home into the same category as sex outside marriage...not God's ideal plan. But scripture is crystal clear on sex. Not so for "work". I just really wish we could get past it and love each other in grace. Thank you, so beautifully written. Found this via your comment post on MPT’s blog. I’m really really saddened that we are discussing this again. People say they don’t mean to heap guilt but by taking a hard and fast stand on what “God’s word says”, as THEY interpret it, is saying that if you don’t meet that standard, you are sinning and ought to feel guilt. It’s like putting working outside the home into the same category as sex outside marriage…not God’s ideal plan. But scripture is crystal clear on sex. Not so for “work”. I just really wish we could get past it and love each other in grace.

]]> By: thegypsymama http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1394 thegypsymama Mon, 22 Mar 2010 04:29:01 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1394 Thank YOU - Believe it or not, I actually come back often to read it myself. I need a constant reminder! So, I love to see that it is still speaking to other folks as well. And I really appreciate you took the time to let me know! Thank YOU – Believe it or not, I actually come back often to read it myself. I need a constant reminder! So, I love to see that it is still speaking to other folks as well. And I really appreciate you took the time to let me know!

]]> By: jlyn http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 jlyn Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:52:38 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1393 oh how i needed to read this today....& we don't even have kids yet! but "he" is a liar, indeed. and "he" has told me that because of the career i've chosen in helping others, that my role at home has already failed before it has even begun. but the reminder that this isn't my plan in the first place; the reminder that this isn't my LIFE in the first place....*that* is what i needed to hear, to read, to absorb today. so thank you, many months after you wrote this. i'll visit often to re-read, re-hear, & re-absorb. His word continues to speak. oh how i needed to read this today….& we don’t even have kids yet! but “he” is a liar, indeed. and “he” has told me that because of the career i’ve chosen in helping others, that my role at home has already failed before it has even begun.

but the reminder that this isn’t my plan in the first place; the reminder that this isn’t my LIFE in the first place….*that* is what i needed to hear, to read, to absorb today.

so thank you, many months after you wrote this. i’ll visit often to re-read, re-hear, & re-absorb.

His word continues to speak.

]]> By: Rhonda http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1392 Rhonda Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:00:09 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1392 I just needed to let you know how I have bookmarked this post of yours, and come back to it often. Thank you I just needed to let you know how I have bookmarked this post of yours, and come back to it often.

Thank you

]]> By: thegypsymama http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1391 thegypsymama Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:05:16 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1391 "A brief flutter of a moment." - yes, that's exactly how it seems. There is a flicker here and there that I might be doing it right and then it passes. I also find myself counting the exact number of hours I have with them vs. the daycare. And I try to comfort myself by subtracting the nap hours so that it doesn't seem so long. But I have truly, profoundly become convinced that working or home mothers have to give their kids over to the Lord with a profound courage and surrender themselves from being the center of their kids lives in order to teach them that God belongs there. I actually wrote another post about that topic if you are interested: http://thegypsymama.com/2010/02/22/it-takes-guts-to-be-a-mom/ “A brief flutter of a moment.” – yes, that’s exactly how it seems. There is a flicker here and there that I might be doing it right and then it passes. I also find myself counting the exact number of hours I have with them vs. the daycare. And I try to comfort myself by subtracting the nap hours so that it doesn’t seem so long. But I have truly, profoundly become convinced that working or home mothers have to give their kids over to the Lord with a profound courage and surrender themselves from being the center of their kids lives in order to teach them that God belongs there.

I actually wrote another post about that topic if you are interested: http://thegypsymama.com/2010/02/22/it-takes-guts-to-be-a-mom/

]]> By: liberty http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1390 liberty Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:21:06 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1390 That was TEAR bucket.... That was TEAR bucket….

]]> By: liberty http://thegypsymama.com/2010/01/an-open-letter-to-my-working-mother%e2%80%99s-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-1389 liberty Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:19:47 +0000 http://thegypsymama.com/?p=1828#comment-1389 Oh My. How I have needed this. How I have only sometimes for a brief flutter of a moment utterly believed that I am doing it right. That me having to work isn't a death sentence to their childhood. That the 3 hours after work and one and a half before are enough for me to guide and direct them. Thank you from the bottom of My year bucket for this one. Blessings as you work today. I'm headed in now. Oh My. How I have needed this. How I have only sometimes for a brief flutter of a moment utterly believed that I am doing it right. That me having to work isn’t a death sentence to their childhood. That the 3 hours after work and one and a half before are enough for me to guide and direct them. Thank you from the bottom of My year bucket for this one. Blessings as you work today. I’m headed in now.

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